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How to Find Support When a Loved One Is in Treatment: Self-Care for Families

Alcohol and drug addiction – known as alcohol use disorder (AUD) and substance use disorder (SUD) – affects not only the person using alcohol or drugs, but also their whole family. When a person with an addiction or substance abuse seeks treatment, it typically includes intensive therapy, an introduction to self-help support groups, educational classes, and coaching on lifestyle and behavioral changes that support sustainable recovery and sobriety.

But what about their loved ones?

If your friend or loved one is in addiction treatment, you’ve probably worried, argued, cried, and changed your way of life to try to help them. You need support as well. Here’s a brief overview of the different types of support available to you.

1. Al-Anon & Nar-Anon

  • Al-Anon (AA) and Nar-Anon (NA) are perhaps the most well-known of all support groups for loved ones of people with AUD/SUD. Started in 1951, AA and NA meetings are now available all over the world. These 12-step groups introduce you to other families who have dealt with alcohol or drug addiction. They can relate to what you’re going through. Together, families share their experiences, offer hope to one another, and discuss ways to solve problems.
  • Most Al-Anon and Nar-Anon meetings have anywhere from five to 25 members. They take place in person, by phone, and online. Similar to the Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous meetings your addicted loved one may attend, these groups are independent and self-supporting. They’re not affiliated with any particular religious or political group.

2. Alateen & Narateen

  • There are also teen-focused 12-step groups, called Alateen and Narateen. These groups were created specifically for teens and young adults who have family members or friends with addiction. They follow similar 12-step principles as Al-Anon and Nar-Anon, but with a focus on helping teens connect with and heal alongside others their age.

3. Families Anonymous

  • Families Anonymous is another 12-step group that connects family members and friends of people with AUD/SUD with other families that share similar struggles. These groups are not specific to drugs or alcohol, but rather all related disordered behaviors, including problems like gambling. Formed in 1971 by a group of concerned parents in California, the group’s mission is to bring peace and serenity to its participants.

4. Parents of Addicted Loved Ones (PAL)

  • PAL is a nonprofit group dedicated to “people helping people through the woods.” Founded in 2006, PAL meetings occur once a week, for 90 minutes, and are located all over the U.S. Meetings are open to people of any faith or background. The organization’s goal is to encourage parents of children with drug or alcohol issues to learn, share, and give and receive support.

5. SMART Recovery Family & Friends

  • SMART Recovery is a non-religious alternative to 12-step groups like AA and NA. The program also offers Family and Friends meetings for loved ones of people with AUD/SUD. Groups meet both online and in person, all across the world. They focus on helping families develop coping and communication tools to help themselves as well as their loved one. If your loved one prefers SMART Recovery meetings over 12-step meetings, consider attending SMART family meetings so you and your loved one can speak the same recovery language.

6. GRASP

  • GRASP (Grief Recovery After Substance Passing) specializes in supporting people who have lost someone to overdose or addiction. Group meetings create a comfortable, healing place where families can be with others who understand their pain and grieve together, rather than in isolation.

7. NAMI Family Support Group

The National Alliance on Mental Illness Family Support Group can be a good resource for families facing addiction or any kind of mental illness. NAMI structures these groups so everyone has a voice and a chance to speak. They emphasize sharing, self-forgiveness, and coping skills. Meetings typically last 60 to 90 minutes and take place weekly, every other week, or monthly.

8. Family Support Through Your Loved One’s Addiction Treatment Center

  • Many drug rehab programs offer family support while your loved one is in addiction treatment. Some offer family therapy, where you can explore family dynamics and work with your loved one to improve communication. Others offer educational family workshops, where you can learn about AUD/SUD, talk with other families about your experience, and develop recovery skills. Whatever your treatment center offers, your participation is critical for both you and your loved one. These groups are often led by professionals who have unique insight into treatment and recovery, and are experienced at helping families heal and grow together.

9. Professional Therapy

Self-help support groups are extremely helpful, but they serve a different purpose than therapy. During your healing process, you may discover issues that you need to work through with an expert. Professional therapy can help. You can look for individual therapy for yourself, seek out a marriage counselor for you and your spouse, or a family counselor for you and your family members. Although therapy is not free like most support groups, it is worth the investment.

Seeking Support While Your Loved One is in Addiction Treatment is a Sign of Strength

Everyone affected by the disordered use of alcohol or drugs needs support. Try a few different meetings and see where you feel most comfortable. They are free and confidential, and you have nothing to lose by giving them a try. Support groups can help you cope with the pain of loving an addict and realize you are not alone.

Getting help can also put you in the best position to support your loved one when they complete addiction treatment. By learning all you can about what they’re going through, building emotional strength, and attending to your own needs, you’ll be able to be there for your loved one as they navigate their recovery journey.

Family involvement is an internal part of addiction treatment at The Ridge. Learn more about how we support families during treatment >>

Trauma and Addiction

What is the link between trauma and addiction?

Trauma comes in many forms. It can affect an individual, a family, and an entire community. Many people who experience trauma don’t understand the significance or impact of trauma in their lives. They may not consider themselves trauma survivors. They may show all the clinical signs of having experienced damaging trauma, but do not believe they have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which often develops in response to trauma.

It’s not unusual for people to downplay their trauma. They may categorize their experience as a bad memory or simply a tough time they went through. In many cases, people think that because something difficult or negative happened a long time ago, and they don’t think about it every day, it has nothing to do with their lives in the present moment. They cope as best they can and soldier on without complaint – even when their friends, family, and therapist – if they have one – can see plainly how their history of trauma affects their current behavior.

This misunderstanding of trauma and PTSD can have serious consequences. The long-term effects of untreated PTSD include, but are not limited to:

These effects can begin early and last a lifetime. However, not all people who experience them understand they’re connected to trauma.

Why Do People Minimize Trauma?

Trauma survivors include people who’ve been bullied, physically assaulted, or emotionally abused and/or neglected. As we mentioned, many people who experience these things don’t consider themselves trauma survivors. Instead, they think they’ve just been through some tough times, which are now in the past.

An interesting fact about trauma is that it isn’t necessarily defined by the event itself. It’s more about how the individual perceives the experience. Think of it this way: one individual may experience bullying at work but doesn’t perceive the behavior of their boss or colleagues to be that disturbing. Another person may experience the same thing with a completely different take on the incidents and have an entirely different outcome in response. They may develop anxiety, have trouble sleeping, or quit their job. Their self-esteem may suffer. They may avoid places or people that remind them of the traumatic experience.

With all that in mind, let’s dig deeper into trauma, beginning with a clear definition.

Trauma: A Clinical Definition

We hint at the definition above, but it’s important to understand exactly what we’re talking about. Here’s a helpful definition provided by trauma experts at the Substance Abuse and Health Services Administration (SAMHSA):

“Individual trauma results from an event, series of events, or set of circumstances that is experienced by an individual as physically or emotionally harmful or threatening and that can have lasting adverse effects on the individual’s functioning and physical, social, emotional well-being.”

They go on to define events mental health professionals consider traumatic:

  • Natural disasters
  • Sexual abuse
  • Physical abuse
  • Domestic violence
  • Witnessing domestic violence
  • War, terrorism, political violence
  • Medical injury, illness, or procedures
  • Community violence
  • Neglect or deprivation as a child, adult, or senior
  • Kidnapping
  • Accidents
  • School violence
  • Loss of a family member, loved one, or peer

Trauma experts define three distinct types of trauma. All three of these may involve the events or experiences listed above, in varying degrees:

  1. Acute trauma. Acute trauma is the result of a single incident.
  2. Chronic trauma. Chronic trauma is caused by repeated and prolonged exposure to traumatic experiences, such as domestic violence or childhood abuse.
  3. Complex trauma. Complex trauma is caused by repeated exposure to multiple traumatic events of different types.

It’s important to understand that not every person who experiences trauma will go on to develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Many will develop low-level anxiety, low self-esteem, and mild depression. In many cases, people who experience these symptoms turn to drugs and alcohol to alleviate the uncomfortable emotions and patterns of thinking associated with them.

It’s also important to understand that effective, evidence-based treatment for PTSD exist and can help people manage the effects disruptive effects of trauma in their lives. We’ll talk about treatment in a moment.

Before we do, we’ll share statistics on the prevalence of trauma worldwide and in the United States.

Prevalence of Trauma

Research on the prevalence of trauma shows surprising results. Here’s are some key points from a survey published by the World Health Organization (WHO) in 2017:

  • 70.4% of respondents reported at least one traumatic event in their lifetime
  • 31.4% reported experiencing the death of a loved one
  • 23.7% reported witnessing or discovering a death or serious injury in another person
  • 22.9% reported experiencing physical violence
  • 14.0% reported intimate partner violence
  • 13.1% reported war-related trauma

Here are the results of a study on trauma prevalence conducted in the U.S. in 2013:

  • 89.7% reported at least one traumatic event in their lifetime
  • 53.1% reported experiencing interpersonal violence (assault, rape, assault with intent to kill, assault with a weapon)
  • 43.7% reported experiencing physical assault
    • 44.9% of women
    • 42.4% of men
  • 29.7% reported experiencing sexual assault
    • 42.4% of women
    • 15.8% of men

In addition to these statistics about adults, it’s important to understand the prevalence of trauma experienced by children. In the United States, approximately two-thirds of children experience at least one traumatic event before the age of sixteen, twenty percent of high school students experience bullying, seventeen percent experience cyberbullying, and close to twenty percent of children who experience trauma have post-traumatic stress disorder. Research shows a direct relationship between experiencing childhood trauma and developing an alcohol or substance use disorder later in life.

We should point out that though the relationship between trauma and addiction is unmistakable, not everyone who experiences trauma or develops PTSD will develop an alcohol or substance use disorder. The most effective way for people to process trauma and avoid its negative long-term effects is professional mental health treatment.

Treatment for Trauma and PTSD

The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) indicates that psychotherapy – in some cases accompanied by medication – is the best way to treat trauma and PTSD. One-on-one sessions with experienced therapists help trauma survivors develop skills to manage their symptoms and cope with them when they arise. Therapy sessions often focus on recognizing and changing patterns of thinking and behavior related to the original trauma. Therapists and patients work together to identify these life-interrupting patterns and replace them with patterns of thought and behavior that are non-disruptive and life-affirming.

The most common types of therapy used to treat PTSD and process trauma include:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
    • This solution-focused therapy stressed behavioral change. The talk component typically includes specific strategies that a patient can apply right away.
  • Exposure Therapy
    • Exposure therapy involves a therapist carefully re-introducing a patient to traumatic stimuli – or directing a patient to the memory of traumatic stimuli – in such a way as to minimize its power.
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
    • EMDR blends exposure therapy with directed eye movements. This process helps patients change their reactions to traumatic memories and reduce the frequency and intensity of symptoms related to those memories.

Because each person is different, each course of treatment for trauma is different. Techniques that work for one person will not necessarily work for another. Therapists collaborate with patients to find what works for them, then move forward together to develop effective strategies to manage symptoms and mitigate the effect of trauma in daily life.

This is crucial for people in treatment for alcohol or substance use disorders, since they often develop their disordered use of alcohol or substances to alleviate the uncomfortable symptoms of PTSD or early trauma. Evidence shows that when treatment addresses PTSD/trauma and alcohol/substance use simultaneously, outcomes improve – and patients learn to live a life that’s not dominated by their past trauma or present mental health or substance use issues.

The Ridge in Cincinnati offers an inpatient facility to help people suffering from addicts to undergo a complete detox program.

Insomnia, Binge Drinking, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

What is the link between insomnia and binge drinking?

When you ask people about the challenges associated with quitting alcohol, one thing you hear often is “I can’t get to sleep without drinking.” When you ask people who begin drinking again after they try to stop – known as relapse – they often cite insomnia as one of the factors. In fact, research shows that around half the individuals diagnosed with alcohol use disorder (AUD) – formerly known as alcoholism – also have insomnia. Depending on what study you read, the number may be as low as 36 percent or as high as 72 percent.

Whether it’s 36 percent, 72 percent, or somewhere in between, experts agree that insomnia, alcohol use disorder, and relapse are related phenomena. Over the past twenty years, researchers have conducted experiments to try to unravel this relationship, and solve the problem of insomnia-related relapse. Several studies indicate that therapeutic interventions such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), classes on sleep hygiene, and medication can reduce insomnia and help prevent relapse.

A recent study conducted at the University of Missouri-Columbia took a different approach. Rather than analyzing the effect of therapeutic intervention on the behavior of people with insomnia in recovery from AUD, they analyzed the effect of a specific therapeutic intervention – cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) – on young, active binge-drinkers with a high risk of experiencing alcohol-related harm.

Finding a Path Around Stigma – Insomnia and Binge Drinking

The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAA) defines binge drinking as “drinking more than four alcoholic beverages (women) and five alcoholic beverages (men) on one occasion.” This Missouri study focused on people aged 18-30 who reported binge drinking at least once in the month before the study began. The goal of the study was to find a way to reduce the harm associated with excess drinking by targeting the related phenomenon of insomnia without addressing the binge drinking directly.

In an interview with Science Daily, study author Mary Beth Miller, Ph.D., explained the approach:

The potential for insomnia treatment to influence alcohol-related consequences has significant implications for the prevention and treatment of alcohol use among young adults. Given the stigma associated with mental health issues and addiction, it’s crucial to identify other forms of treatment that either influence alcohol outcomes or open the door to alcohol-related treatment.”

The reasoning is rock-solid. Despite decades of awareness efforts and public advocacy campaigns to reduce stigma around alcohol use disorder and the treatment of alcohol use disorder, stigma around addiction and treatment still prevent people with drinking problems from seeking treatment. While we don’t have detailed information about why every person who needs treatment does not seek treatment, we know that a significant treatment gap exists. We also know stigma around treatment contributes to the treatment gap.

To learn more about the treatment gap and stigma, please read our article Alcohol Use Disorder in Adults: The Treatment Gap.

With regards to the effect of CBT on insomnia, and the knock-on effect on alcohol related harms, this Missouri study yielded important results. They indicate Dr. Miller and her team may be onto something important.

The Effect of Improving Sleep on Young Binge Drinkers

The study involved 56 participants who were divided into two groups. One group received five sessions of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for insomnia. The other group received a single session on sleep hygiene. The CBT group received instruction on subjects such as sleep diaries and relaxation techniques. In contrast, the sleep hygiene group received instruction on how to create a consistent bedtime routine and arrange their sleeping space to improve their sleep environment.

Here’s what the researchers found:

  • CBT group:
    • 56% decrease in the severity of insomnia symptoms
    • Moderate improvement in sleep efficiency: more hours asleep in bed
    • Moderate reduction in drinks per week
    • Reduction in negative consequences of drinking
  • Sleep hygiene group:
    • 32% decrease in the severity of insomnia symptoms
    • No reported improvement in sleep efficiency
    • Moderate reduction in drinks per week
    • Moderate reduction in negative consequences of drinking

These results are modest, we admit. However, they contain an easter egg of sorts. The 56 percent reduction in the severity of insomnia symptoms for the CBT group is an important finding. We’ll return to that in a moment. The big picture takeaway is that the idea behind the study – discover a way to reduce alcohol harm that doesn’t involve stigma – showed itself as valid and worthy of further pursuit. Both groups reduced drinks per week and negative consequences of drinking. That’s a positive finding. But here’s where it gets interesting. They did it by addressing their sleeping patterns. They didn’t address their alcohol consumption directly. That’s a new development in the treatment of alcohol use disorder.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Sleep, and Alcohol-Related Harm

Now we’ll talk about the specific data around insomnia. The cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) group showed a 56 percent reduction in the severity of insomnia symptoms. We see this as an important data point for two reasons. The first is related to relapse. If insomnia is a significant driver of relapse, and CBT for insomnia reduces the severity of insomnia symptoms, it follows that CBT for insomnia for people in recovery from AUD may help them prevent relapse.

Let’s be clear.  The study authors do not say that. But we see that potential in the data.

The second reason is that CBT had a positive effect on the sleeping and drinking patterns of people who are neither in recovery nor receiving treatment for alcohol use disorder. This is another piece of evidence in support of the holistic, integrated model of AUD treatment.

The integrated model advocates treating the whole person. It doesn’t focus solely on the disorder. In the case of these 56 people between the age of 18 and 30 who reported binge drinking at least once in the month before the study, this means that treating an aspect of their overall wellbeing – sleep – had a positive effect on their drinking. It also led to an overall reduction in the number of drinks per week. Finally, it led to a reduction in the negative consequences of drinking.

This is good news and offers a novel entrée to the treatment of problem drinking in young adults. By sidestepping any question of stigma or fear of treatment, it offers young binge drinkers a potential pathway to reducing alcohol consumption. In addition, it may, in the long run, point them in the direction of seeking support for problem drinking, and help them take their first steps toward recovery.

If you need help with the detox process, The Ridge offers an inpatient rehab facility in Cincinnati and the outpatient and partial hospitalization treatments you can enroll in.

Heavy Drinking, Alcohol Use Disorder, and Marriage

The presence of a drinking problem or an alcohol use disorder (AUD) can cause significant harm to any human relationship, including marriage. Decades of research show that for newlyweds and long-married couples alike, disordered alcohol use such as heavy drinking or binge drinking can lead to a host of negative consequences. In 2009, the journal Clinical Psychology Review published a review of over sixty studies on the effect of alcohol on marriage.

Here’s what the study concluded:

“There is an overwhelming amount of evidence for the conclusion that spousal alcoholism [AUD] is maladaptive, and that heavy and problematic alcohol use is associated with lower levels of marital satisfaction, higher levels of maladaptive marital interaction patterns, and higher levels of marital violence.”

That study lays the foundation for a data-driven, evidence-based understanding of the specifics of how alcohol affects marriage. More recently, a long-term research effort conducted by scientists at the Research Institute on Addictions (RIA) at the University of Buffalo examined the prevalence of alcohol use and its associated problems among married couples in the U.S. They published their research in a series of articles in 2013-2014. While much of their data and conclusions are not a surprise, there are some notable observations that are important for the general public to understand.

Alcohol Abuse Ruins Mairrages

One takeaway from the research on alcohol and marriage is that in a majority of cases, moderate alcohol use does not cause significant problems. Observable and quantifiable trouble appears most often in couples where one spouse or both report heavy alcohol use and/or patterns of binge drinking.

Different Types Of Alcohol Abuse And Their Effects On Marriage

Before we go any further, let’s look at how the experts at The Substance Abuse and Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) and the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAA) define moderate, binge, and heavy drinking:

Moderate Alcohol Consumption

  • 1 drink a day for women and 2 drinks a day for men.

Binge Drinking

  • Alcohol consumption that brings blood alcohol concentration (BAC) up to 0.08 g/dl. That means:
    • 4 drinks in about 2 hours for women
    • 5 drinks in about 2 hours for men
  • Consuming 5 or more alcoholic beverages on the same occasion on at least 1 day in the past 30 days.

Heavy Drinking

  • Binge drinking on each of 5 or more days in the past 30 days

Now let’s look at the prevalence of these drinking patterns among married couples in the U.S. This is data reported by the research team at the University of Buffalo:

  • 79% report neither partner meet criteria for heavy drinking
  • 4.0% report both partners meet criteria for heavy drinking
  • 12% report only the male partner meets criteria for heavy drinking
  • 5.0% report only the female partner meets criteria for heavy drinking

Those statistics introduce a consistent trend throughout all the research – yes, all the research over the past several decades – that indicates a gender difference in heavy drinking. According to the data, the male partner in a married couple is more likely to engage in heavy or binge drinking than the female partner. Another notable fact emerges here, as well. The consequences of alcohol use differ when both partners drink heavily and/or have a clinically diagnosable alcohol use disorder (AUD).

We’ll return to that fact in a moment. To read and understand the criteria and risk factors for AUD, please consult this NIAA resource page .

Now let’s take a closer look at the core findings from the research we’ve been talking about.

The Negative Effects of Heavy Drinking on Marriage

The Research Institute on Addictions (RIA) team examined several key metrics: marital satisfaction, domestic violence, aggression, divorce, and the number of positive and negative interactions between married partners.

Here’s what they found:

  • Marital satisfaction
    • Heavy drinking, problem drinking, and AUD in one or both partners were associated with lower marital satisfaction, as compared to marriages where neither partner reported heavy drinking, problem drinking, or AUD.
    • Stronger associations between lower marital satisfaction and drinking problems appeared when the male partner reported the problem drinking patterns.
    • Weaker – but still present – associations were noted when the female partner reported the problem drinking patterns.
  • Domestic violence
    • Alcohol use was identified as a contributing factor in domestic violence for perpetrators and victims
      • Physical aggression is three times more likely to occur when the perpetrator consumes alcohol
      • Physical aggression is twice as likely to occur when the victim consumes alcohol.
    • Alcohol use was identified as a contributing factor in verbal and psychological aggression between married partners
      • Verbal aggression is twice as likely to occur when either the victim or perpetrator consumes alcohol within four hours prior to the reported aggression
  • Divorce
      • Alcohol and/or substance use are among the top reasons identified for filing for divorce:
        • They’re the 3rd most common reason cited by female marriage partners
        • They’re the 8th most common reason cited by male marriage partner
      • Alcohol and/or substance use is one of the most common reasons married couples cite for seeking marriage counseling
  • Interactions
      • More negative interactions than positive interactions appeared in married couples when one marriage partner reported alcohol dependence or AUD.

These statistics clarify – with numbers – the negative effects of alcohol on marriage. Findings like these are helpful when discussing alcohol and marriage, because it’s easy to make blanket statements like “too much drinking ruins a marriage.” Although that may feel true and seem obvious – and is true in many cases – historical research data does not support that statement. It’s also not what the results from RIA studies say.

So, what do the results say?

Different Drinking Habits Cause Problems

We start this section with a heavy qualification. We do not condone excess drinking in any form, for anyone, ever, whether they’re single, married, in a serious long-term relationship, a common-law domestic partnership, or dating. Issues of marriage, divorce, and alcohol and/or substance use and misuse can be highly charged. They’re often accompanied by complex relationship histories. They can be extremely emotional for everyone involved.

That’s why we stick to facts, derived from data, obtained from reliable scientists working in good faith to understand complex topics that have real ramifications for real people in the real world. If you suspect that you or your spouse is battling with drinking problems, its worth taking a look at our latest findings.

With that said, here’s what the RIA researchers found with regards to the following metrics:

  • Marital satisfaction

    • Marriage partnerships in which both marriage partners report heavy alcohol consumption report higher levels of marital satisfaction than marriage partnerships in which one marriage partner reports heavy alcohol consumption and the other does not.
  • Divorce

    • Marriage partnerships in which both marriage partners report heavy alcohol consumption are less likely to end in divorce then those in which one marriage partner reports heavy alcohol consumption and the other does not.
    • 50% of marriage partnerships in which only one partner reported heavy alcohol consumption end in divorce.
    • 30% of marriage partnerships in which both partners reported similar alcohol consumption ended in divorce.
  • Interactions

    • Marriage partnerships in which both partners report having AUD report more positive interactions than partnerships in which one partner reports AUD and the other does not.
    • Marriage partnerships in which both partners report having AUD report a higher ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions than partnerships in which one partner reports AUD and the other does not.

Now you can see why we qualified the data before sharing it. This is tricky territory.

As the study authors say,

“The difference makes the difference.”

The data shows that for marriage partnerships in which both partners have similar drinking habits, those partnerships do not experience the same negative consequences as marriage partnerships in which partners have contrasting drinking habits.

Alcohol Abuse And It’s Effect on Children

Research identifies the presence of an alcohol or substance use disorder in the home as an adverse childhood experience (ACE). ACEs are a form of trauma. They’re a complex phenomenon by themselves. We’ll now offer a thumbnail version of what we think people reading this article should know about ACEs.

Researchers from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) identify the following ten types of ACEs:

  1. Physical abuse
  2. Emotional abuse
  3. Sexual abuse
  4. Physical neglect
  5. Emotional neglect
  6. Mental illness in the family
  7. Witnessing domestic violence
  8. Divorce
  9. Having a relative incarcerated
  10. Alcohol and/or substance abuse in the home

The scientists who first identified ACEs published scores of peer-reviewed papers on the long-term consequences of ACEs. Taken together, these studies show that when individuals accrue four or more ACEs, they’re at increased risk of experiencing:

  • Impaired neurodevelopment
  • Social, cognitive, and emotional problems
  • Chronic disease, disability, and impaired social productivity

In addition, children exposed to four or more ACEs are at increased risk of engaging in risky behaviors. These include alcohol use, drug use, and early sexual activity. In terms of chronic medical conditions, exposure to four or more ACEs increases the risk of developing:

  • Cancer
  • Diabetes
  • Heart disease
  • Depression

With regards to the negative effect of AUD among parents on their children, the research clearly indicates the presence of AUD – when combined with three or more other ACEs – increases the risk of those children developing a wide range of biological, social, psychological, and emotional problems when they reach adolescence and adulthood.

What Does This All Mean?

That depends on the marriage partnership, the individuals involved in that partnership, and the decisions they make with the knowledge they have.

In short, all this information means different things to different families. Therefore, we can’t tell anyone definitively what this marriage and parenting data means for them.

Does Alcohol Abuse Always End In Divorce

The presence of an alcohol use disorder in a marriage does not automatically mean that marriage will end in divorce. Nor does it mean the partners in the marriage will experience physical abuse, verbal abuse, or a disproportionate amount of negative interactions. It does, however, increase the risk for physical and verbal abuse. That increased risk is more pronounced in marriage partnerships in which the marriage partners have contrasting drinking habits, i.e. marriages in which one partner drinks heavily, and the other does not. In those partnerships with mismatched drinking habits, rates of divorce and negative interactions also increase.

The presence of alcohol abuse in a marriage does not mean that children of those parents will grow up to experience all the negative consequences associated with ACEs, either. It does, however, push those children closer to the threshold at which childhood trauma results in adolescent and adult disease and disability.

But no path is written in stone. Humans are resilient and have the ability to experience and transcend adversity of all types. That includes the trauma associated with AUD and ACEs.

Family And Marriage Counseling In Treatment for Alcohol Use Disorder

Associated with all this data on drinking, marriage, and children is the fact that alcohol use disorder is a chronic medical condition that responds to appropriate treatment. A corollary to that fact is that children who experience trauma can learn to process that trauma with the help of a capable adult – most often a therapist – and mitigate the negative effects of experiencing ACEs.

Therefore, married partners that know and understand the implications of AUD in marriage and parenting have options. If they also know and understand that one, or both, partners in the marriage have an AUD, they can seek treatment and support for the AUD. Evidence shows that an integrated treatment model is effective. Integrated treatment includes individual therapy, group therapy, experiential therapy, and family therapy.

This whole person approach can lead to long-term, sustained sobriety. Married parents with AUD in their partnership can seek support for their children, as well. The trauma associated with parental AUD can be mitigated with the help of a qualified, capable adult. The adults most qualified for helping children work through trauma are professional therapists, as mentioned above.

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The takeaway here is that AUD in marriage can have a negative impact on both individuals in the marriage partnership, as well as any children in the family. But that’s not the end of the story. Spouses and parents can take affirmative, proactive steps to recover from AUD and to help their children process any trauma associated with the AUD. A step toward treatment and support is a step toward empowerment and healing for everyone involved. Seeking support and receiving detox treatment are time-tested methods families can use to author their own narrative, write the next chapter of their personal family story, and rediscover the balance and harmony that the presence of an AUD often disturbs.

The Consequences of Alcohol Use Disorder in Women

How prevalent is alcohol use disorder in women? What are the consequences?

Alcohol use in the U.S. is common. People serve alcohol at parties, commemorative events, and at home. They include it as an option at occasions as diverse as backyard barbecues and executive business lunches. Adolescents experiment with alcohol, college students often make consuming alcohol a way of life, and adults use alcohol to relax, facilitate social interaction, and reward themselves after a hard day of work or play.

Its prevalence – while innocuous in many instances – can also lead to misuse. The 2020 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (2017 NSDUH) shows the following population-level data on alcohol use disorder (AUD) in the U.S.:

  • Adolescents (12-17): 712,000 (2.8%)
  • Young Adults (18-25): 5.2 million (15.6%)
  • Adults (26+): 22.3 million (10.3%)

Quick math tells us that almost 30 million people in the U.S. meet the clinical criteria for AUD, or what most people think of as alcoholism. Further examination of the numbers shows the rate of AUD gradually decreased for all age groups between 2002 and 2017, then increased between 2017 and 2020. However, additional research reveals an increase in the prevalence of AUD in one group over the same time: women.

A study published by the American Psychological Association (APA) in 2014 explores the differences in the development and consequences of alcohol use disorder in women, and how they differ for women and men. This article summarizes that study and discusses its implication for the treatment of alcohol use disorder in women.

Prevalence of Alcohol Abuse in Women Compared to Men

In general, men experience higher rates of AUD than women. Here’s the data:

  • AUD in men: 24.6%
  • AUD in women: 11.5%

These numbers represent a distinct shift, not only over the past 15 years, as indicated above, but over the past 90 years. In the 1930s, data places the ratio of disordered alcohol use for men, compared to women, at seven to one (7:1). When we fast forward to 2017, we see that ratio close significantly: it now hovers around two to one (2:1). If you’re not used to reading or thinking in ratios, what this means is that about a hundred years ago, seven times more men than women experienced problem drinking. Now – or according to data from 2017 – only twice as many men than women experience problem drinking.

That’s a big change. The specific reasons behind the change are beyond the scope of this article, but it’s reasonable to suggest that the increased reporting of rates of AUD for women mirror their increased ability to participate in all aspects of society, from working, to owning property, to securing equal rights and access to a variety of social, political, and cultural activities that were previously denied them, as Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg observed, “on the basis of sex.”

What is within the scope of this article, however, is identifying differences in the development and impact of AUD on women compared to men.

We’ll talk about those now.

Alcohol Use Disorder in Women: The Negative Effects

Disordered alcohol use causes severe, lasting, and negative impacts for anyone. Men, women, young people, old people – any person who develops disordered drinking patterns risk damage to their brain and body. The latest research tells us two important things: some of the negative impacts of AUD are more pronounced in women than in men, and AUD develops differently in women, as compared to men.

Research indicates the following short-term differences in the effect of alcohol consumption on women, compared to men. Women show:

  • Higher blood alcohol levels when consuming the same amount of alcohol
  • Increased cognitive impairment
  • Increased sedation (sleepiness)
  • Higher levels of impairment (drunkenness)
  • Increased levels of acute, alcohol-related injury
  • Increased risk of sexual assault (as a victim)

Long-term differences in the effect of alcohol use disorder on women, compared to men, include:

  • Increased risk of brain damage and shrinkage
  • Shorter time for brain damage and shrinkage to occur
  • Increased memory impairment
  • Increased cognitive impairment
  • Elevated risk of alcohol-related liver disease
  • Elevated risk of mouth, throat, esophageal, liver, breast, and colon cancer
  • Greater risk of heart disease and cardiovascular complications
  • Increased risk of depression and mood disorders

Pregnancy And Alcohol Use Disorder

Studies also show the negative impacts of alcohol consumption during pregnancy. Risks to newborns of mothers who consume alcohol excessively during pregnancy include:

  • Birth defects
  • Low birth weight
  • Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), which can cause:
    • Physical deformations
    • Slow growth (before and after birth
    • Defects in major organs
    • Defects in the brain and nervous system
    • Cognitive impairment
    • Social impairment
    • Memory impairment
    • Disrupted emotional development
    • Impaired balance

These elevated risks mean, in a nutshell, that AUD – or simply excessive drinking – has the chance to cause more damage, more quickly, to women than men. The authors of the APA study cited above put it this way:

“AUD appears to be a more severe form of psychopathology in women.”

Alcohol Use Disorder Rehab For Women

There are two more pieces of information we left out – and both are relevant to our discussion. First, following initiation of alcohol use – i.e. their first drink – women develop patterns of disordered drinking more rapidly than men. Second, when women begin drinking during adolescence, the intensity and duration of alcohol use disorder are greater than that found in men who begin drinking around the same time.

Taken together, all this information is critical for primary care physicians, physicians who specialize in women’s health, therapists, psychiatrists, and social workers involved with women’s issues. In other words, anyone directly involved in the health and wellbeing of women should understand the increased physical, emotional, and psychological risks associated with AUD in women compared to men.

Putting this knowledge into action means that medical and mental health professionals can include questions regarding alcohol consumption in any screenings they conduct during regular office visits. These professional caregivers can then act quickly on the information they collect. If women show signs of AUD, doctors and therapists can recommend a drug and alcohol rehab for women and treatment plan sooner rather than later – which can help women with disordered drinking patterns live healthy lives and significantly mitigate the negative short- and long-term consequences of alcohol abuse.

Sources:

https://www.samhsa.gov/data/sites/default/files/reports/rpt35323/NSDUHDetailedTabs2020/NSDUHDetailedTabs2020/NSDUHDetTabsSect5pe2020.htm

Five Signs a Loved One is Drinking Too Much

The past two years have been stressful all around.

Most of us wish we could go back to early 2019 and have a total do-over.

We know that’s an irrational wish.

We know the only way out is through: we have to get accustomed to the new normal, accept things as they are and will be for the foreseeable future, and do our best with what’s right in front of us.

That’s the wise, balanced approach.

However, we also need to realize that the cumulative stress and uncertainty – combined with the lagging effects of isolation and social distancing from 2019 and the first part of 2020 – might push some people off balance. It might lead to excessive drinking, binge drinking, or alcohol addiction, a.k.a. alcohol use disorder (AUD).

Let’s be realistic: many people handle stress and anxiety by self-medicating with alcohol. They may start out drinking a little bit every day, then progress to heavy, daily drinking.

That can work for short period of time, but eventually, that kind of drinking takes its toll. It causes physical damage to the body and brain, emotional and psychological damage to the person drinking and their friends and loved ones, and it degrades friendships and family relationships.

If you’re worried a friend or loved one is drinking too much, here are the top five things to watch for:

Five Signs a Loved One is Drinking Too Much

  1. Lying and Hiding

    People who drink too much usually know it – but won’t admit it to anyone. To keep from facing the facts themselves, and to avoid uncomfortable conversations about drinking, they may lie about how much they drink and hide the fact they drink at all. If you raise the subject with them, they may deny they’ve been drinking, even when you know they have been, because you witnessed it. This is a red flag. Another red flag is finding empty bottles in strange places: in the closet, under the bed, or anywhere they don’t belong.
  2. Impaired Work PerformanceIf a loved one suddenly has problems at work, such as a rapid drop in productivity or not showing up at all, then alcohol might be the cause. Intoxication and hangovers both negatively affect cognitive function. Impaired cognitive function may result in subpar job performance, missing deadlines, or a decreased attention to important details. It may also result in prioritizing alcohol over work: what’s important to understand is that heavy drinking can cause significant problems in the workplace, which can lead to bigger problems down the road, inlcuding unemployment.
  3. Withdrawal from Family and Friends

    When a person with an alcohol use disorder is in active addiction, they may not want to do anything but drink. They may stop participating in activities they used to love, or they may stop socializing with friends or stop spending time with family. These are red flags for excessive alcohol consumption, and may indicate the presence of an alcohol use disorder.
  4. Anger, Irritability, or Moodiness

    If a loved one displays extremes of emotion that are unusual for them, it may be a sign of stress, or it may be a symptom of a developing addiction and/or escalating alcohol use. Anger or lashing out can be a symptom of intoxication, or it can be a symptom of withdrawal. The same is true for persistent sadness or anxiety. They may be signs of problem drinking, or they may be a sign that someone who drinks too much is going into alcohol withdrawal: both are red flags for excess alcohol consumption.
  5. Risky Behavior

    Impaired cognitive function due to intoxication or long-term alcohol use can cause people to engage in unsafe behavior. This may mean drinking and driving, it may mean using drugs, or it may mean practicing unsafe sex. All are dangerous, and all may indicate that drinking is becoming a problem.

If you think a friend or loved one needs help with problem drinking, it’s important to know that treatment works – and the sooner they get treatment for alcohol addiction and support, the better their chance of achieving and maintaining sustained, lifelong sobriety.

The Ridge offers an inpatient facility with a complete detox program to help everyone suffering from addiction.

The Benefits Of Focused Drug & Alcohol Abuse Rehab

When choosing the best treatment option for someone struggling with addiction, there are lots of variables to consider: residential or outpatient? Location? Treatment philosophy? Recovery rate? Price? There’s another often-overlooked facet, though: size. Different drug and alcohol rehab facilities have different capacities, from less than a dozen to over one hundred patients at once. How can you tell which size of rehab facility best suits your needs?

Larger facilities have the capacity to hold up to (and sometimes more than) a hundred patients simultaneously. These centers often look very similar to hospitals or even college dormitories or campuses. Group therapy can be easy to organize with a massive client base. There is less chance of having to be on a waiting list since there are more beds to fill. Food is generally served in cafeterias with buffet lines. Large facilities often have amenities on-site like a gym or lecture hall. These centers can be more economical than facilities with fewer beds, although of course there are exceptions.

However, because of the sheer volume of patients at a large residential facility, it’s difficult to provide very focused treatment or have a high staff-to-patient ratio.

Because the staff-to-patient ratio is much higher in smaller treatment centers than in larger centers, patients receive intensely focused care and have special needs addressed. Often the smaller facility is comfortably furnished like a lavish home. This level of familiarity and comfort with the setting helps patients not feel tense or afraid about treatment. Because the client base is so small and so concentrated, the patients often feel as if they’re living as a family. They form bonds of support and trust between each other that can be very helpful in recovery. Essentially, a patient at a smaller facility feels more like they personally matter and are receiving care for them as opposed to being a cog in a treatment machine.

Smaller drug and alcohol abuse rehab facilities may represent a higher investment, but The Ridge feels the quality of care makes that investment well worthwhile. The low census allows us to not only closely focus treatment, but also to provide recreation, exercise, and chef-plated meals to restore nutrition. We feel this premium care approach helps to boost our recovery rates. Along with our Joint Commission accreditation, we are now certified by various licensing board assistance groups to treat licensed professionals, including doctors, dentists, nurses, and lawyers.

Addiction patients should not feel like they’re passing through an assembly line during treatment. Each patient at The Ridge receives focused attention. Whether it is outpatient treatment or an inpatient rehab center, we provide the best treatment for everyone. For more about us and our program click here.